Morality is not an Abstract

Morality is a living reality, its not an abstract. (and this statement has nothing to do with the fact that I am presently  reading a Morality play :P)

But yes, morality is very much a part of the day to day life, and not just a topic for expositions and preaching. Like most good thing, we realize the full import of it when we are placed in a non moral (immoral would be the wrong word here) setup, when we are forced to live in an environment where practicing morals are not at the top of the virtual ‘To-Do List’. In an environment where ‘to show-off’ is valued, equality stinks, and the proverbial ‘deep water’ is often bartered away for half a pitcher of the life sustaining compound.. (this may be a side effect of reading Donne :P), people who value things like ‘morals’ are often seen as ‘misfits’ and ‘idealists’.

When placed in such an environment, you realize the importance of morals.. of forgiving, of respect and love for others, of selflessness, of having a charitable disposition, of realizing why humility is an absolute must and why being sensitive to others’ need makes you happy.

My inner peace is taken by storm, maybe I am just a sensitive dork. Maybe I am just an idealist. Maybe I am looking for the wrong thing (in this case, morals) at the wrong places.

But are morals such an extinct commodity? Do they not exist at all?

It does, even if in a small yet significant minority. And this is where I draw my hope and strength from. SP told me “Please be prepared for the hard realities you will face, now that you are out in the real world” and my father asks me to “make a place for yourself for then you’d be in a better position to decide with what kind of people and where you want to be.” These people, and also many others, who I am not quoting here for the lack of space, are the ones I see as ‘good people’, people who have taught me to be the person that I am today, people who have taught me morals, not by preaching, but by practicing, people who tell me that improvement is a constant and never ending process.

A ray of light from within is more powerful than a beam from elsewhere..

But maybe the torch inside responds better when it sees light from outside.. or maybe the insides need to be so strong that the battery never runs out..

Whatever ! I’ll keep on thinking endlessly. But the writing-me needs to practice self constraint. :P

In a manner of summarizing for the sake of summarizing, I hereby conclude that, yes, morals are very much alive! I feel it within me, and I pray I keep on feeling it, for, the day I stop will be the day I insult so many people who have deposited a huge trust in me..

I hope I never ever do that.

MORALITY IS A MUST. NO MORALS = NOT A HUMAN BEING

//Passionately and Aggressively (and consciously so :P)

/farheen

Rising Above the Narrow Confines of ‘Oneself’

Has it happened with you? Do you panic (consciously or subconsciously) on hearing that something good has happened with someone you know?

‘Something good’ can mean anything, from a friend getting admission into a great college or getting a proposal from a man of every girl’s dream. And worse than that, did it make you utter a silent wish that it wasn’t true? Or perhaps a sigh of relief on realizing that you dint hear it right?

If it has, you should know that it’s a psychological core issue you are suffering from, namely, “Low Self Esteem”

In issues relating to love relationships, this low self esteem can manifest itself in a variety of forms, and lead to other related issues like fear of intimacy or insecure sense of the ‘self’. In general day to day life, it can exhibit itself in the forms mentioned at the beginning and can cause bitterness, anger, hatred, lower self esteem and in extreme cases, anxiety and depression. Loss of friends and souring of relationships are mere side-effects in the wider picture.

You feel threatened if something good happens with others mainly because you feel something good that may/could/should have happened to you, has happened with them. If you have faith in your capabilities, this thing will never happen- for you’ll then realize that you will, in time, get your share of ‘something equally good or better’ and just because someone else received it now, doesn’t adversely affect your chances.

 Things maybe different, if the two of you were competing for the same thing and at the same time, though. :P

Tyson puts it very succinctly when she says “The only way we can hope to become better is by realizing our psychological issues and trying to put it right.”

Go do it ! :)

The first step is to ACCEPT.

Happy Healing. :D

You should ask yourself, as Enrique, or for that matter, I keep on asking myself:

“Dime a donde vas? Ye si sabes tu destino?”

Or Do You Know at all?

Take One Day at a Time :)

/F

Rekindling the EngLit in Me :)

(as I start University..)


Will you scream ‘Traitor!’ if I say:

1.   I like ‘contemporary’ better than the classics?

2.   I don’t really understand whatever Eliot says (at least not as much as is expected of me now.)?

3.   I think D. H Lawrence was a moron?

4.   I favour Dr. Johnson’s view of the Metaphysical Poets and not Eliot’s?

5.   I would burn every piece by Jane Austen if it were my free will that reigned supreme?

6.   I love Shaw. Totally. And prefer him over Eliot?

7.   I think Metaphysical poetry is great and enjoy it much more than the Romantic poetry?

8.   I think Coleridge as a critic was way better than Wordsworth?

9.   I am almost certain that Indian EP has a future if we look into it !?

10.   I have read Dickens only in abridged version?.( Although I have him on my shelf just to pretend that I read it.) ..

Wtf! Coz, even as I write #10, I am picking up “Hard Times”.. because my Mr. S (my subconscious :P) is screaming “TRAITOR” ! :P

:P

All Hail Eliot !

(h0pin I understand him better this year ! >-o] )

//farheen.wasp at gmaildotcom :)

/farheen in the EngLit M0de \m/

The Concept of ‘One Last Piece’: Condensed Thoughts ;)

Three years. Three years. Three years.!! “That’s all you have until we get you married off. (Married. & 0ff)”.

If you think that your parents have joined this ‘We give you three more years’ club,

 Welcome to the Group. :)

People getting married. Everywhere and all around. La familia or la amigas. Everyone. Hmm. The pressure mounts up. Three years. Yes, three years.

Three years.

These ‘three years’ set me thinking. Three years or 10. It doesn’t really matter. Parents say stuffs like that to make us work our guts out. Do the best we can. I only wish the same thing was told to guys as well. Then maybe they’d hurry up and the 20 year olds wont keep on getting stuck up with guys of 40.!

“Hurry up son, you have 2 more years. Settle down & get married. If you don’t, we’ll get you ...d! ” :P (coz we’ll get you married threat is really not meant for guys)

Jokes apart, now.

Why should we marry?

Because it seems like a good thing to do as everyone is getting married? I don’t think so. We should get married only because and when we feel we have found our “One Last Piece on Earth”.

Yes, and I am saying this. Because although Enrique’s voice is the sweetest I’ve ever heard, this sweet voice isn’t going to whisper in my ears any sooner than if I end up being a Hero-girl, the chances of which is clearly non-existent.  :P

 So, yes, a whisper in the ears is clearly one prime reason why you should marry (at least once in life.) :P =)

But when should we get married?

Yes, when. :) Like everything else, we humans, we plan. So, the plan is that you should get married when you have settled down well in life and you feel you can shoulder such a huge responsibility. Girls 0r Guys. This is a Cardinal Rule.

And who should you marry?

The opposite sex. :P You should marry your ‘One Last Piece’ because that person is your one last piece on earth! That is if you don’t believe that the Martians are going to adapt themselves on earth anytime soon (0r you on Mars).

And if you are in no mood to get married even after your ‘three years’ have expired,

This will hopefully do the trick: Pp read carefully, yu ;)

1. Keep on playing the maniac, the day dreamer.
2. Show your parents that you are fashion-challenged. And tell them that no thinking man in his right senses will marry an ugly duckling who doesn’t know how to put on the mascara.
3. Keep your room dirty and smelly. They will probably drop the idea until you learn how to manage stuffs. :)
4. Burn whatever you cook.
5. Tell  them you are waiting for the one who will tell you that you are his “One Last Piece on Earth” :">
6. You tell them the real reason, whatever that maybe. For, rest assured, they will understand because they are the ones who think the best for you. :)

Haha.

So, I addressed the issue, off my chest now. Phew !

Yeeeaah. No energy Drink in the world can do what the estribillo of “Everything’s Gonna Be Alright” can do !! CrazY!

//farheen.wasp at gmaildotcom :)

/farheen