Has it happened with you? Do
you panic (consciously or subconsciously) on hearing that something good has
happened with someone you know?
‘Something good’ can mean
anything, from a friend getting admission into a great college or getting a
proposal from a man of every girl’s dream. And worse than that, did it make you
utter a silent wish that it wasn’t true? Or perhaps a sigh of relief on
realizing that you dint hear it right?
If it has, you should know
that it’s a psychological core issue you are suffering from, namely, “Low Self
Esteem”
In issues relating to love
relationships, this low self esteem can manifest itself in a variety of forms,
and lead to other related issues like fear of intimacy or insecure sense of the
‘self’. In general day to day life, it can exhibit itself in the forms
mentioned at the beginning and can cause bitterness, anger, hatred, lower self
esteem and in extreme cases, anxiety and depression. Loss of friends and
souring of relationships are mere side-effects in the wider picture.
You feel threatened if
something good happens with others mainly because you feel something good that
may/could/should have happened to you, has happened with them. If you have
faith in your capabilities, this thing will never happen- for you’ll then
realize that you will, in time, get your share of ‘something equally good or
better’ and just because someone else received it now, doesn’t adversely affect
your chances.
Things maybe different, if the two of you were
competing for the same thing and at the same time, though. :P
Tyson puts it very succinctly
when she says “The only way we can hope to become better is by realizing our
psychological issues and trying to put it right.”
Go do it ! :)
The first step is to ACCEPT.
Happy Healing. :D
You should ask yourself, as
Enrique, or for that matter, I keep on asking myself:
“Dime a donde vas? Ye si sabes tu destino?”
Or Do You Know at all?
Take One Day at a Time :)
/F
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